Wednesday, December 31, 2014

To Forgive or Forget?

Its hard to accept when things go wrong and detachment is the only way out. I don't  really know how pride comes in when forgiveness is so hard to do. I've been hurt so much that the hole inside my heart can't seem to heal. They say time heals wounds but 3 years is not enough. 

Yes, I have been suffering for so long. Independency, self-reliance, and not having to trust someone made me create a new self that has become afraid to start relationships. How could I say to myself that I have finally moved on when I can't even take a single step forward? That I can't forgive someone whom I've had expected so much from?

This may seem dreamy but I would rather forget someone than forgive... Then wait for that perfect time to bump into each other and start a whole new friendship carrying nothing from the past.

Monday, December 8, 2014

How to Solve Friendship Problems




Have you ever had a huge misunderstanding with your bff's? I bet everyone has! Things like this normally happen especially when the friendship is growing deeper. In fact, I just came across the longest silent war in my friendship history.

I won't tell you the reason why we fight but I was the middleman and it came to a point when I got tired of hearing the blames and reading the facebook hate posts. Thinking it would be better to stay away while the heat is up, I kept out of touch. No visit. No chat. No text message.

We never broke up. We just made a space. And it took us six months to finally realize that we couldn't afford to lose one another, so we started communicating with casual "How are you?" and "I miss you." Then finally see each other so happy like we never had a fight.

Sometimes the best way to solve a problem is to keep your mouth shut, give the other parties enough time to think and space to breathe. Forget about who's right or wrong. In the end, real friends embrace your flaws and will always love you for what you are. That's what friends are for!


How about you? How do you solve your friendship problems? I wanna know.